Ask Andy! - Issue 3, Series 1 - June, 1998

E-mail troubles

Dear Andy: I'm an avid lover of e-mail but there's this guy who keeps bothering me. He sends me letters from anonymous or made-up people, asking me to write his advice column and asking me to the Y. I just don't know what to do! Please help! Bothered on Columbia Street

Dear Bothered: I'm sure that whoever is writing you the letters from unknown E-mail addresses is merely a harmless person looking for a pen pal. As for the advice column, that's what you get! What else should you expect when a friend asks you to write his fledgling advice column and you don't respond. SHAME ON YOU!!! SHAME SHAME SHAME!!!

Flirting with danger

Dear Andy: I have a problem. There's this guy... He's 21, married, and has 2 kids. I've liked him for the last 5 years...(he's only been married for 1 year) Anyway, he put the moves on me the other day... and I accepted them... I realized what we were doing and stopped it... but I really wanted it to happen... Andy, should I be worried about it or just let things go with the flow??? Lost in Lust

Dear Lost: First, though you let yourself slip, you ended up doing the right thing, and that's what really counts. It's perfectly normal to be attracted to him, but If I were you, I'd resist these attractions. Generally, speaking, sexual relationships tend to mess up previously existing friendships. Also, you really don't want to be the cause of a breakup in this guy's marriage. In the end, you should just pass this guy up. Though any relationship you might have with him will probably at first seem harmless and rewarding at first, it really isn't worth the risk of angering his wife, or destroying his family. Though I wouldn't worry too much about things that have already happened because they are both moderately harmless and already belong to the past, I would limit future contact with him until you are both fully under control of yourselves. Even if he dumps his wife, I'd avoid him. After all, if he cheated on her, he's just as likely to cheat on you.

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